someone who.


An Original Piece Written by Madison McMullin

Originally Produced August 06, 2019

This is a long one :)

Please enjoy this playlist for the soul as you read + maybe after, too.

Love always.

Mads ♡



i don’t need anyone.

i am whole and complete on my own.

and i love myself.


i have learned that letting people in often disturbs my peace and causes me to overthink.

but i’ve also recently learned that it isn’t because i let them in, its because i’m insecure about myself.

not insecurity in the sense that i don’t like who i am, but in that someone else potentially might not;

more-so, that someone might be able to change the way that i feel about myself.


my entire life

i’ve been misjudged by people and pushed away by people

who were supposed to care about me.


and i always wondered why.


but i’ve realized that it was never about them, it was always about me.

i’ve realized that it was a reflection of the way i misjudged myself.

not only that, but also the way i perceive things and the false reality i put myself into. 


it doesn’t matter if one person doesn’t like me.

it doesn’t matter if i don’t like myself sometimes.

because i’m allowed to feel.

and i’m allowed to voice my opinion.

and these are always changing.


i trust that the universe will check me and bring people into my life that challenge my bad habits,

make me think deeper and allow my love to grow stronger.

i’m always such a people pleaser and i have learned to love that about myself, but i’ve also always known that this is my biggest flaw.

it’s not because i love people that i want to please them, but because i always felt like i owed them something.

but i don’t owe anyone anything.

and they don’t owe me anything either.


my entire life

i’ve been trying to understand

why people didn’t love me

but i’ve realized

that that was never really the question.


the question has always been

why can’t i accept the way other people love me?


everyone has a way of loving

and

everyone has a way they like to be loved.


the problem is that people rarely ever communicate these with each other

and communication becomes harder and harder in any relationship

if it is not built with talking.


comfortability and conformity set in,

creating most of the relationships we see today.

many of these lacking love and even respect. 


setting and defining your boundaries is key

in understanding how you can love other people

because it builds respect for separate entities.


accepting that not everyone speaks love in the same language

and that differences arise is major

in learning how to let people in

and

allowing them to love you.


when we don’t set boundaries,

we are telling ourselves that our values and thoughts are invalid.

rather than encouraging ourselves,

we are discouraging the self and everyone around us.

we are avoiding the love and instead,

making things transactional.

we are acting solely on instincts instead of intuition.

and most of all,

we are limiting ourselves from our full potential. 


throughout my life,

i’ve encountered so many males,

and even females,

that attempted to love me in a way

that they thought i wanted to be loved.

but the thing is,

i never told them how to do that.

i never let them into my head

or even allowed them to understand me.

i’ve always tried to build a persona that i think people would like.

that’s why my personality would change with every encounter.


i’ve since realized

upon reflection

that the universe was behind these encounters.


it was trying to love me this entire time,

but i neglected to communicate how that could be done.

and this lack of communication was a result of never learning to love myself,

first. 


the problem was

that i didn’t recognize

that i was capable

and more so,

that i deserved that love.


essentially,

i disregarded myself

as a human being with feelings and emotions

that are valid and have experiential backing.


in the past months

i’ve learned more about myself

than i have in the past 19 years.

but this was only because i was actually listening to myself

and my intuition.


i’ve learned through other people,

other encounters and different situations

and even some internal interactions with the different spheres of myself.


and now i am finally able to set my boundaries,

not because i want to be with someone else in a romantic relationship,

but because i understand that without doing so,

there is no possibility for one to ever occur or come into fruition.


not only this,

but i now understand that boundaries should be applicable to all of the relationships we have,

whether they’re familial or platonic or sexual


in order for someone to love me,

they need to be able to grasp that i am a divine being with masculine and feminine parts intertwined.

i am a vessel of knowledge and understanding,

but also heartbreak and sorrow.


in order to feel loved, i need mutual trust.

a trust that can only be possible

if both first trust in the forces around them

and the universe as a whole.


i need a relationship that has value and understanding

and isn’t just based on interaction or surface feelings,

but one that delves deeper into another reality.


i need respect.

for my mind,

my time,

for my values

and for my body,

but most of all

for my path and my journey.


i need someone

with an understanding of perspectives

and different opinions.

not opinions that are judgmental,

but that are constructive and fruitful


i don’t want someone

who wants to please me.

i want someone who is able to,

without even thinking twice about it.

someone who understands me so well,

that they are able to speak my love language.

and even if they aren’t,

they’re willing to grow and learn

in order to be able to.

i want someone who doesn’t think

i’m crazy

for my thoughts or change in thoughts;

someone who

doesn’t see me as insane,

but sees the sanity in my outrageous thoughts or decisions.


i want a someone who

isn’t afraid to tell me

not to say things like “i hate myself” or “i suck.”

more than that,

i want someone who

understands me

for feeling that way,

and knowing that it’s not how i feel deep down.


i want someone

to understand

the layers of my soul.

from all the deep hidden secrets,

to the brightest days.


someone who gets

that i need my alone time

but that i also have moments

where i need external love too.


someone who doesn’t fight with me,

but talks through my thoughts and me through theirs.

someone who doesn’t want to change me,

but instead accepts that i will successfully use my surroundings

in order to grow and blossom

as a human being

and that they should actively work

to do this as well.


i want someone who

loves me for who i am,

but also understands

that i will change.


someone who actively encourages me to change,

and works with me to understand myself

and their own being more thoughtfully. 


someone who gets that my experiences,

with or without them,

will continue to mold me

and guide me into being

a better source of energy for the world.


a person who doesn’t think

that me being nice to people is me “flirting”

or fishing for attention.


someone who doesn’t mentally constrain me

or my thoughts

and make me feel smaller than i am.


i want to be free in my own world,

while they simultaneously live in theirs.


sometimes our worlds will collide,

and then we may share our love and experiences with one another. 


i desire someone

who doesn’t become attached to the physical world

and understands that we are eternal beings

with much more purpose than we realize.


someone who

understands me

spiritually and physically and emotionally.


someone who gets

that my soul takes different forms

when it encounters other souls.


a person that understands

my love will not always look the same.

that i am critical because i care,

not because i am judging.


someone who knows

that love isn’t always sunshines and butterflies.


that sometimes there’s scary moments

and sometimes there’s grief

and sometimes there’s growing pains.


i crave someone

that knows sometimes i feel so deeply,

it consumes me.


someone who gets

that i don’t always say how i’m feeling

because i don’t always feel confident enough,

but knows

that if you’re paying attention

you’re still able to feel my aura.


i want them to know

that sometimes

i don’t express my feelings fully

because i am uncertain of them as a whole.


someone who is able to see past

all of my false realities

and through to the real me.


ultimately,

someone who is intimate with me,

not just in a sexual way,

but in a way that stimulates

my mind and my soul


someone who

listens when i’m talking to them.

a person who

doesn’t say things unless they really mean them

and doesn’t make promises on things they can’t deliver.

someone who is realistic and sensible,

but also in touch with their feelings and sensitive.

someone who sees me as a whole,

with two realms of thinking;

rather than a half of that same whole.


only then

will i want to accept the love.

because they will know that

they do not need me

and i do not need them.

we are two wholes orbiting

in the same realm.


we will mutually understand

that we are on the same frequency

and that we will only remain

as one consciousness

if we discuss and talk

about our feelings and our realities

with respect and while refraining from judgement.


i want love.

not a codependent relationship

with false assumptions

and fractured emotions.


i want it all.

or i want nothing at all.

i want pure love.

not love falsified by assumptions and miscommunication.

and not molded by preconceived notions of what they think is real,

but what really is.


i want someone who stands by me

as i work to better myself as a whole,

while they work to achieve the same. 


and if it surfaces,

sometimes that love doesn’t always

stay with two people.


love molds

and transforms itself

into so many different shapes

and in many different ways.


even if it does stay between two people,

it still does this.


it’s the most complex thing in this world

and we think we understand it,

but we don’t.


we only understand our version of it.

you see it in people everywhere.

their way of loving is fostered

from their belief of what love is.

to everyone,

loving someone takes a different form.


but the purest form of love

is being able to let go.

even if it’s just for a minute or a day

or just an interaction,

being able to let a person

experience their own experiences

and grow in their own time,

that’s true love. 


love,

just like us,

has an evolution.


it has evolved through all of us

in different ways

and at different degrees.


love used to be expressed in noises,

now we express it through

underexposed emotions

and false agreements

with things

we don’t even believe in.


but we do either of these actions

because at our cores,

we have a need to find

this thing we call love;

we crave to be connected with other humans.

but it’s not enough

to just have a deep desire

for this emotion,

we must actively work at it

in order to fulfill

our evolutionary needs.


we fail to set boundaries

so we’re unable to understand

that other people

are allowed

to formulate their own as well.


this causes us

to be blind

to their feelings

and their expression

of those feelings.


most of all,

we’re unable to

see ourselves as wholes

without another human.

we attach because we cannot cling

to life with our own energy.


but we’re allowed to be individuals.

we’re allowed to have our own energies

and think in different ways.

and we’re allowed to be successful in our individuality.

and most of all,

we’re allowed to love other individuals.

the individual is often disregarded,

but in truth

it is the most important part

of creation.

because through the individual

we can be a part of a whole.

without the individual,

the whole doesn’t even exist.

it just is.


but individuality doesn’t mean

being just a male or just a female.

it means encompassing all of creation within yourself.

it means harnessing

all of your physical and spiritual power

in order to create a life that you love to live,

while also knowing

that this is just a temporary phase in eternity.


being an individual means

setting boundaries

and understanding other people

as a physical manifestation

of their ancestorsmental, physical, masculine and feminine properties.

knowing that they are not a result of just their environment,

but of the people that came before them.

just as you are. 


individuality is love.

and it is the strongest form of it

because once we learn to love ourselves,

we learn to love where we come from,

even if we don’t know exactly what or where that is.


from this,

we are able to foster ourselves into a fruitful relationship

with the world

through the internal atmosphere

that love creates.


love is really the driver of all creation,

with evolution acting as the catalyst.

we are working towards love.

whether we realize it or not,

that is the goal.

and that is what we already are,

only if we are willing to accept it.

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