FROM FIGHTING TO SETTING BOUNDARIES.
It’s interesting to analyze the way I used to react to certain situations, especially within relationships.
One of my favorite measurements of growth is the ability to have a different reaction in a situation you have already encountered.
Being able to see our past reaction for what it is - trauma based, or victim mentality, or whatever - and consciously being able to choose another path - like love - is one of the most beautiful ways to measure our own individual growth.
Imagine….
You have a history of exes… of course - cause you a bad bitch.
Usually, with your exes, they always move on with someone you know. It’s cool. No hard feelings.
except…. It used to be a lot of hard feelings underneath the surface - you would suppress them, but they’d always be there, bubbling beneath the depths of your heart.
It’s common for you to manifest meetings with these women your exes move on with - whether it’s a face to face confrontation, a text, on socials, or just simply in passing.
Normally, when this encounter occurs, you spew out hatred, jealousy, greed, envy.
Except… this time:
This time, you consciously decide that you’re happy for the two of them. You decide that you CAN be happy for the two of them. You decide that you CAN forgive both of them for doing whatever you think they did to hurt you. You decide to send out LOVE instead.
That’s growth, baby.
That’s unconditional love.
That’s RESPECT.
Being able to respect someone as an individual + knowing that they have their own individual wants and needs and they are all VALID.
Knowing that each + every individual is CAPABLE of making decisions that will feed their highest good.
TRUSTING that the universe put this encounter into your life for a reason… to spread LOVE.
When we choose to send authentic + unconditional love to even those we may have “hateful” feelings toward, we are deciding to send love to those aspects of ourselves.
When we choose to spread love when we are given deception, we are practicing alchemy + introducing a higher frequency.
Being able to love yourself, in all phases, in all shapes, regardless of circumstances - that’s UNCONDITIONAL LOVE - that’s GROWTH.
Relationships never really end, they just morph forms. From physical to energetic. From physical to emotional. From energetic to physical. It’s not about the presence of someone in your life - you will ALWAYS have a relationship with that energy through memory.
When we choose to negate the feelings associated with memory + bring in our current state of being, our current state of presence, we are inviting in LOVE + therefore, choosing to rewrite our story with that energy.
WE ARE CHOOSING TO FORGE A NEW PATH.
Sometimes we are forced to remember
Who we were
So that we can remember
Who we have become
It’s our ability to step out of patterns + into the life we are desiring to be living
When we decide to choose love, we are setting the energetic boundary of LOVE.
What we are is all that can come to us.
If we are being LOVE, if we are beaming LOVE,
Only love can be received by us.
It’s not about circumstances.
It’s about what you are CHOOSING to allow into your reality.
Sometimes we fight for our limitations - it’s so easy to do so.
In situations of contrast, it’s especially easy to argue for our limitations.
“Well, they hurt me”
“Well, I’m upset”
“Well, that’s wrong”
All statements that argue for what you DON’T want.
Being aware enough to choose “giving the benefit of the doubt,” is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself, your well-being + those around you.
Doing this allows us to step out of the fighting (lack) mentality + into the awareness (abundance) mentality - our focus shift is literally what creates the entire world around us.
FOCUSING ON WHAT WE WANT ( AKA LOVE ) BRINGS US MORE OF WHAT WE WANT - ANYTHING ELSE IS JUST A DISTRACTION.