holy-day standards

on my story today, i shared about how i have social anxiety around this time of the year due to conditioning from when i was younger. 

⚡️ i learned at a really young age that JUST because someone says they love you, it isn’t an invitation to belittle them or their dreams 

IVE ALWAYS THOUGHT BIGGER

👇🏻 I’ve always had a different way of looking at things. it’s honestly such a blessing, but because it’s SO different, so many people like to judge the way i see the world as “bad” or “wrong”

my family included. 

I HAD TO LEARN:

💫 that setting boundaries are essential, no matter how close you are to someone

✨ that setting boundaries doesn’t mean you don’t love someone, it just means you value your well-being above all else 

⚡️ if someone doesn’t respect or accept your boundaries once you’ve set them, they haven’t mastered the capability of setting + upholding boundaries in/for their own lives 

JUST BECAUSE THEYRE

• your family

• your childhood best friend 

• your coworker 

• someone you see everyday 

DOESNT MEAN:

• they have the right to belittle you

• they know anything about you or what you’re going through 

• you can’t set boundaries 

UPHOLDING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS 

requires setting healthy standards + boundaries for ourselves. 

we have to know when to say no. 

and if we can’t say no, how can we really even say yes? 

this also means being able to say no when someone else’s perspective isn’t the same as yours. agreeing to disagree. + standing firm in your ability to do so. 

JUST SOME FOOD FOR THOUGHT. 

happy holidays. 

a soothing + gentle reminder that you’re allowed to feel how you feel independent of anyone else’s perception. 

AND 

you can always walk away. staying is a choice, too. 

if you ever want to talk about your experience and/or need a friend to hear your perspective, my DM’s are always open 

cultivating a space of love + respect for us all 🦋

[FAMILY DOESN’T MEAN DICTATORSHIP]

⚡️ a lot of us are conditioned from a young age to believe that we have to follow in our parents footsteps, even if it isn’t really what we want for ourselves 

👇🏻 we are brought up in a way that feels good for our parents - and sometimes our needs are met, sometimes they aren’t 

IT IS OUR RESPONSIBILITY 

• to change the narrative of our generational bloodline 

• to create boundaries that foster the growth we want to see in our lives 

• to stand up for what we believe in, regardless of external circumstances 

THOSE OF US 

who don’t learn to uphold our own desires in our relationships with our families, often go onto foster relationships in our lives where we are unable to express + fulfill our desires 

WE EXPECT change, but don’t stand up for ourselves in a way that creates that change around us 

THIS IS CALLED A TRAUMA BOND

⚡️ trauma bonds happen when we disregard our own needs + desires for the sake of pleasing others 

in order to create loving + healthy relationships, it’s important to set strong standards for the energies we wish to foster in our life experience 

when we consciously shift into fulfilling our needs FIRST, the needs of others are inherently met though the power of unconditional love 

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ISNT:

• people pleasing

• saying yes to everything 

• disregarding an unwanted behavior as okay or saying that it will go away with time 

• staying quiet for the sake of keeping the peace

IT IS:

• choosing to voice your opinions whether or not they are respected or validated 

• saying no to uphold your standards of well-being

• cultivating relationships where you can be authentically truthful + feel validation regardless of communication 

YOU DONT HAVE TO SETTLE. 

raise your standards, watch your reality shift. 

you may have to distance yourself from some people, but you will always have the ability to create better, more fulfilling relationships in your life that will serve you in a much more powerful way than you could ever imagine 

THE TIME IS NOW

AND

YOU ARE THE ANSWER. 

im guiding you in 1:1 to uncover the emotions keeping you in the loop of attracting trauma bonds in your life

so you can uncover the true abundance within & move past all of those limiting factors making you believe you cant have that relationship you really desire

you can have that relationship

now. immediately

why?

because when you embody what you desire, magnetization brings you closer & closer until eventually you’re colliding consistently with all that you desire 

life will become the dream you’ve always wanted to live 

DM me to tap in 👁